I live with a 64 year old man I am 40 years old. I have suffered through his narcissistic ways and my eyes have just been opening lately the last couple of months. He is doing everything he can to treat me down. But at the time he's saying I'm not doing anything to help pay bills or helping around the house which is the complete opposite and a total lie. He turns everything back towards him and his past and nobody gives a fuck about him. We have been together almost 15 years on and off lived together for 6 years and I have had enough I don't know how to walk away. If I do I have nothing no car to drive to work. I have family but I would rather not go backwards I want to leave and continue going forward bc I I have come along way. My son I haven't seen for 16 years just come back into my life and this man I love and thought would be happy for me has done nothing but continued to drink and put me down and tell me I never do anything and he always has to do it all. I don't know what to do if I leave I have no car no money and my son will see it as failure and I didn't want to be at rock bottom when he came back to me. I just don't know what to do if anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate I don't know if this is the right place to post but Im taking the chance bc I feel alone and no one to talk to and he always goes behind my back to my family and his family and talks trash about me and says lies that I won't work or help around here he has to do it all. I got smart though and started paying the bills on my card and not giving him cash and letting him sign it bc he said I make it all up.
I live with a 64 year old man I am 40 years old. I have suffered through his narcissistic ways and my eyes have just been opening lately the last couple of months. He is doing everything he can to treat me down. But at the time he's saying I'm not doing anything to help pay bills or helping around the house which is the complete opposite and a total lie. He turns everything back towards him and his past and nobody gives a fuck about him. We have been together almost 15 years on and off lived together for 6 years and I have had enough I don't know how to walk away. If I do I have nothing no car to drive to work. I have family but I would rather not go backwards I want to leave and continue going forward bc I I have come along way. My son I haven't seen for 16 years just come back into my life and this man I love and thought would be happy for me has done nothing but continued to drink and put me down and tell me I never do anything and he always has to do it all. I don't know what to do if I leave I have no car no money and my son will see it as failure and I didn't want to be at rock bottom when he came back to me. I just don't know what to do if anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate I don't know if this is the right place to post but Im taking the chance bc I feel alone and no one to talk to and he always goes behind my back to my family and his family and talks trash about me and says lies that I won't work or help around here he has to do it all. I got smart though and started paying the bills on my card and not giving him cash and letting him sign it bc he said I make it all up.